Why do Indian Men love White Women but Can't Get Them?

Have you noticed in any club, a few indian men would get in a corner, and stare down at every white woman they can? Unfortunately, that's the creepy reputation indian men have built with white women. I'm an indian man, and I know i'm guilty of it.

I'm half indian and half white portuguese. Like many immigrants, I came to the country 25 years ago. I went to school and college here. Even though I look white, I grew up with mostly Indian culture. I noticed a big difference between the Indian culture and American culture, especially when I started going out in this country. I have noticed Indian guys standing in a corner of a club, trying to absorb the club atmosphere many times. In Indian culture, men are the ones who are forward. They take an initiative with women, as women are usually conservative and shy. So what can you do, when you see a white woman dancing on top of a table with a bottle of vodka in her hand, while men stare up her mini skirt? The Indian men naturally stare amused by all of it as if in a circus. So are they the creepers? Or are they the creeped-out?

Nothing is wrong with white women expressing their freedom. They have a right to. This country celebrates that freedom, and that's something other cultures find hard to grasp. But I've noticed that at least, there is more consistency about who one really is within the Indian culture, than with American. Many times, I've heard women in the U.S. say, they had a great time with their husband/partner before marriage, but after marriage, or in a relationship, the man becomes highly possessive. Thus, there's no surprise that eventually, the relationship or marriage falls apart. But in Indian culture, a marriage or partnership survives much longer, because the expectations are aligned; both men and women act to 'give up certain freedoms' to be in the relationship. In fact, women give up that freedom many times without even being asked to, because they were raised to expect that.  While this type of a relationship may survive longer, I'm by no means an advocate of this, nor would I want this for myself.

The take away is that this great distance between the Indian men and white women must be closed, if a white woman is to find an Indian man a suitable partner. What does an Indian man bring to a woman? Indian men are raised to respect women. I know everyone would argue against that given the history of India, but the new India, an the educated classes is much different. The last 20 years of India's exposure to other cultures, has brought many changes, among which is a lot more openness in dating and relationships, with greater respect for women. Also, India is the one of the few countries that has several holidays that celebrate women, where men are made to vow that they'll protect their mothers, or sisters, or wives etc. In fact, there is even a "sin" in the Indian culture, if a Indian man touches a woman by his feet, he must apologize and ask for forgiveness from GOD, because it's a sin. I understand it's a superstition, but some people are well grounded in these beliefs. Most Indian men are caring, family men. They are educated and strive to be something in life. They have great careers. So, you would think that a woman would be happy to have an Indian man. Quite the contrary.

The FOB syndrome- Fresh off the Boat Indians have created a bad taste in non-Indian women. I take that back, even in Indian women, who were born or raised in the U.S. Indian men are friendly with each other. That's our culture. They aren't gay. But women here don't like that friendliness. We are casual when we aren't working. Yes, and that means, short sleeved shirts and khaki pants with slippers. It's taught in our culture, that facial hair, like a mustache or beard is good for a manly image. So most of them have a mustache. And then the curry. Yes the dreaded curry, and the odor of it in our skins. There are 100 different types of curry foods we can eat, but there's only 1 hurry curry way to turn off every one around us.

What is an Indian man to do when it comes to dating non-Indian women? Answer is simple. He must change some of his style. Clothing. Appearance. Odor. But most importantly, his mentality. The one mentality that is extremely important for an Indian man to understand and develop is that unlike in Indian culture, where a woman they marry becomes "theirs", in western culture, women appreciate 'freedom'. That freedom doesn't stop in a relationship. That freedom cannot be controlled by Indian men, or for that matter, any man. Therefore, men must appreciate and allow their women the freedom. To allow women their freedom is the most seductive potion that i have encountered. Instead of wearing casual clothes with slippers, let her slip away sometimes. Let her be the master of her own destiny. All men must learn to be a cheerleader for their woman when she makes the right choices. And if she doesn't, it is still her choice, maybe not agreeable with you. And therefore, you have the ability to exercise your freedom, and not be with that person. Ultimately, freedom and relationship balance out, when two people equally desire the right amounts of each. Only piece of warning is, that if you do make relationship compete with freedom, you will lose. Only way to win this war, is to have freedom and relationship align, both for the man and the woman in that relationship.

I recommend two blogs that are a must read. One is an Indian men white women dating Guide http://www.indianmendatewhitewomen.com/indian-men-white-women-dating-guide

Another blog is a general blog on steps you can take to get any woman to love you http://www.womantoloveyou.com/get-a-woman-to-love-you-steps

Happy dating!